1. Quality Time
Secure children are those that know that they are loved and feel safe and secure because of this. Give your children reassurance that they are loved and your relationship with them will not change. Help them to feel safe by spending quality individual time with each child daily.
2. Help Your Children To Express Their Feelings About Your Dating
Encourage and show your children how to express their feelings in a healthy way. Allow them to feel and show their anger, fear, frustration and sadness. Listen without interruption, judgement or reaction and afterwards give them a big hug and thank them for sharing. If your children are having difficulties expressing their feelings try using activities like those in our positive parenting section.
3. Don't Introduce Every Date
It's suggested you only introduce your children to new people once you have moved beyond casual dating. Be mindful that children can quickly and easily get attached to new people. So to minimise their potential hurt and disappointment only introduce people who you truly believe are in it for the long haul.
4. Don't Force Your Children To Accept Your New Partner
Don't try to force a relationship your children and your new partner. Take it slow and let it happen naturally.
5. Don't Let Your New Partner Discipline Your Children
It's appropriate for your new partner to set their own boundaries and to let your children know if they have crossed these. However, it's not appropriate for them to discipline your children. If there's an issue they should come to you with it and you can choose the most appropriate way to deal with it.
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