At the end of a relationship it is common for people to go through an identity crisis, to question who they are, what interests them and what they want out of life. This is a great opportunity to rediscover what's important to you and to start to think about the life you want to live.
1. Look To The Past
Tap into all your past dreams, desires, goals, interests. What were your dreams and goals before you meet your ex? What were your plans for the future? What were your goals for your career, travel, family? What activities did you love to do? What were your passions and interests? How did you spend your leisure time?
2. Paint Your Future
You now have the opportunity to live your life exactly as you want to; What does it look like? Where do you want to live? What is your job? How do you spend your days, nights and weekends? Where would like your next holiday to be?
3. Document The Now
Expressing your thoughts and feelings daily can be insightful and very healing. Be completely honest with yourself, make sure you write down everything that comes to mind - even the ugly stuff! Recognising the real reasons why you feel and think the way you do can be transformational. It can show you what your true thoughts, feelings and beliefs are; give you a glimpse of your authentic self.
4. Survey Your Loved Ones
Ask your trusted friends and family to share with you what they think your good qualities are, what you have to offer as a friend, parent and partner. People are often shocked to hear how great other people think they are. Write down their answers and refer to this list whenever you feel you need a confidence boost.
5. Learn From Others
There are mountains of great self-help resources available. Go to your local book store, library or search the internet and find something that feels right for you. It's useful to know that not everything you read or listen to will resonate with you. That's exactly how it should be; your mind is very powerful and will take what it needs just at the right time.
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