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Positive Parenting
Things To Consider When Helping Your Children Through the Separation and Divorce
DO
- Frequently remind them that the divorce is not their fault
- That you both love them and this will not change
- Encourage contact with the other parent and people who are important to them
- Be consistent in your routines and discipline
- Try to limit the amount of change your children have to go through
- Give your children unconditional love
- Share your feelings and emotions
- Get help if you need it
- Be sensitive to how each child is reacting
- Allow your children to express their feelings
- Give your children time to adjust
- Help your children maintain their regular routines and activities
- Spend quality, one on one time with your children
DON'T
- Fight in front of your children
- Use your children as messengers, spy's or mediators
- Keep your separation a secret or wait until the last minute to tell them
- Bad mouth your ex to your children
- Discuss your relationship problems with your children
- Lean on them for emotional support
- Replace your hugs and time together with presents, treats or outings
- Question your children about the other parent
- Ask your children to hide information or lie
- Make promises you can't keep
- Make your child feel guilty for loving the other parent
- Expect your children to fill your former partners shoes
- Ask your children to take sides
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